In celebration of the International Day of the Boy Child, a non-governmental organization, Young and Woman Initiative (YAWI) convened a closed WhatsApp discussion aimed at exploring the challenges, values, and upbringing of the boy child in today’s society. The conversation was moderated by Mr. Timothy and featured personal testimonies, expert opinions, and a spirited call to action.
The session opened with participants sharing their personal experiences growing up as boys. Mr. Collins recounted a traumatic childhood memory of sexual assault by an older female, while Mr. Segun Taiwo reflected on his time in private school and an instance of unsolicited attention on social media. Mr. Badmus Ridwan spoke candidly about growing up among females, struggling with low self-esteem, and finding purpose through responsibility and volunteerism from a young age.
Addressing the question of whether traditional methods of raising boys are still relevant, Mr. Senaya emphasized the values instilled in him by his mother, including patience, self-worth, and prioritizing family. He noted how the absence of social media in the past allowed for more intentional parenting, contrasting with today’s challenges where boys are often expected to meet responsibilities without guidance or support.
On the values to be instilled in the boy child, Mr. Taiwo highlighted four pillars: positive reinforcement, self-acceptance, resilience through skill-building, and having a role model.
The discussion also touched on the role of religion in shaping the self-esteem of boys. Mr. Ridwan argued that boys should be groomed for leadership with a strong sense of self-worth. He shared a personal anecdote about being tempted by cybercrime in junior secondary school, and how fear of disappointing his parents helped him resist.
On the rising identity challenges affecting today’s youth, Mr. Senaya stressed the importance of family as the primary source of values and information, rather than social media. Reinforcing this, Mr. Ridwan stated that children from supportive homes are less likely to succumb to peer pressure and other negative external influences. He advocated for greater parental involvement and the deployment of guidance counselors in schools.
The conversation also explored whether self-esteem can become excessive. Mr. Taiwo expressed that self-esteem is relative, while Mr. Ridwan believed it could be measured and hinted at a recommended book to explore the subject further.
Discussing environmental factors that affect boys’ confidence, Mr. Taiwo pointed to family dynamics especially broken homes as a significant contributor to low self-esteem in boys.
In their closing remarks, participants emphasized collective responsibility. Mr. Ridwan called on all stakeholders to contribute to the training and development of boys. Mr. Taiwo reiterated the need for society to create a space where boys are both seen and heard. Mr. Senaya advocated for equal treatment of boys and girls and emphasized the need to distinguish true mentors from mere public figures.
The session concluded with heartfelt thanks from Miss Ifeoluwa Olofinsao on behalf of the Executive Director, Amb Adebobola Agbeja who appreciated all participants and encouraged everyone to treat boys with care and dignity in honor of the day.
The YAWI reaffirmed its commitment to child, youth and women development, especially in shaping a generation of confident, resilient, and well-guided community.
